“Perfectly captures the obstacles modern-day men and boys face, and leaves you with a thirst to learn more about how best to support your fellow man. A triumph – I could not put it down!”
The Book · Available from August the 6thThe Book · Out now
Honestly,
Honestly,
Man
Why masculinity feels confusing, shame doesn’t help and what to do about it
A survivor’s evidence-led, compassionate case that men are in a state — and a clear-eyed roadmap out.
All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys.
Paperback £14.99 · Right Book Press · Publishes 6 August 2026Published 6 August 2026
What it’s about
Honestly, Man is a compassionate, evidence-led inquiry into the physical and mental-health crisis facing men — and what any of us can do about it.
It’s built on three honest questions: are there really issues for men today? If so, why? And how do we begin to solve them?
“This book is written to address the physical and mental health crisis facing men. I hope it will be of value to all men, regardless of cultural outlook, sexuality or gender preference, and also to the women who have men they care about, whether the women are sisters, mothers, partners, aunts, neighbours or work colleagues.”
— from the introduction
The book’s architecture
One honest argument, three questions
The spine of the book — and the clearest way to know if it’s for you or the people you lead.
01
Are there issues for men?
We start with the honest question most conversations skip. Without alarm or statistics, the book names what’s really happening in men’s lives today — in their bodies, their relationships and their heads.
02
Why?
If men are in a state, how did we get here? A compassionate look at the stories we’re handed about masculinity — why they feel confusing, and why shame, so often the default response, only makes things worse.
03
What do we do about it?
Not a lecture, a roadmap. Practical, human, clear-eyed things any of us — men, and the people who care about them — can actually do, starting from where we are.
“The more we can talk about this stuff together, the more we realise we’re not alone, and the more we can support one another.”
From Honestly, Man
About the author
Andrew Pain
Mental Health & Resilience Keynote Speaker
Andrew writes and speaks from lived experience. He is the author of the forthcoming book Honestly, Man (available from August the 6th)the book Honestly, Man , host of the Men on Show podcast, and a keynote speaker on resilience, burnout and workplace wellbeing. The argument in these pages is the one he takes to main stages.
All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys. As Andrew puts it, men’s wellbeing is hardly a magnet for funding — so it felt fitting that the book be a practical response as well as a written one.
TEDx speaker
Lived-experience keynote
Men on Show podcast
Season 1 · 60 episodes
Member, International Coaching Federation
Professional membership
Mental Health First Aider
Trained & accredited
Themes the book names
Masculinity & confusion Shame Men’s mental health Burnout Male suicide Domestic abuse Fatherhood & relationships Asking for help
Praise for Honestly, Man
“Perfectly sets out the challenges men and boys face and follows them up with solutions. All interwoven with the author’s lived experience, learning from others and his trademark sprightly manner. A cracking read!”
“A much-needed, clear and non-toxic take on masculinity, packed with practical insights. Everyone should read this.”
If you're struggling, support is here
Honestly, Man explores men's mental health — including shame, burnout, male suicide and domestic abuse. It's written to open conversations, not as medical or therapeutic advice. If any of it affects you, please reach out.
Samaritans
116 123 free, 24/7 NHS
111 urgent help National Domestic Abuse Helpline
0808 2000 247 abuse-related support Men experiencing abuse can contact the Mankind Initiative.
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All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys.
Paperback £14.99 · Right Book Press · Publishes 6 August 2026Published 6 August 2026
If any of these themes affect you: Samaritans 116 123 · National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 2000 247.